A Ride on the Infertility Roller Coaster Results in My Book
On July 25, 2000, my daughter Grace was born. The birth of a child is not unusual. In my case it was a real miracle. I was one month shy of my 46th birthday. My daughter was born as result of years of infertility treatment. It was my last chance at becoming a parent. I had made myself and whatever higher power I believed in a promise. If I was successful at having a child I silently promised I would do something to help others who experienced similar pain and trauma while on their infertility journey. I have also been a licensed clinical social worker for 30 years. Initially, I volunteered doing individual counseling, workshops, and led groups for people struggling with infertility. I wanted to reach more people and do more. My book, Riding the Infertility Roller Coaster: A Guide to Educate and Inspire, came from my desire to reach other people engaged in this struggle.
I remember feeling like a stalker as I watched and waited for the delivery truck carrying my book to arrive. I am sure the Fed-Ex man was “surprised” and perhaps “a little frightened” as I flew out of my front door to help him unload the truck. A first for me and I imagine for him as well.
My book came out in March of 2006. I wasn’t sure I would ever say those words. In writing my book I interviewed people who have chosen many paths in relation to their infertility journeys. Their stories are candid, compelling, include a range of emotions including humor. They are heartfelt. I tried to write the book from my heart as well and include everything I could to educate and empower my readers. My goal was to help them see they did have control in a seemingly uncontrollable situation. I also wanted them to know they are not alone.
The responses I have gotten from people around the country and in my author events have touched me deeply. It has been an incredibly gratifying experience. People have written to thank me for addressing issues that they were afraid to talk to others about. They have shared their personal stories. Family members and friends have expressed their appreciation at their gaining a greater understanding of how this journey affects the people struggling to have a child and the people around them. I have watched people at my author events nod their heads as I share stories from my book and my personal and professional experiences.
I recently learned my book was a finalist at the USA Book of the Year Awards for 2006. I look forward to hearing from other people and connecting with them in ways I had previously only dreamed about.
- Iris Waichler
